The Politics of Ghosting–On care, dignity, and modern dating

An Excerpt:

Much has been — and should be — written about the politics of self-neglect. But in this moment, I find myself preoccupied with something else: the absence of other-care. I’m reflecting on the roots of our callousness — the lies we’ve been told and the lies we tell ourselves. The way we assume we are always already living our best values. The ways we justify our refusal to care. How we explain away our obligations to one another — from the White House to the workplace, from Congress to the dining room. And how, even in our most intimate choices — like who we date and how — we unconsciously mirror the very dynamics we claim to resist.